How to Get What You Want
You already know what you want. The question is, do you know how to get it?
On How to Get What You Want, Susie Tomenchok shows you how to navigate the moments at work that actually determine your career. The conversations, decisions, and situations where what you say and how you show up shapes your career growth, leadership presence, and professional advancement.
Because getting what you want isn’t about being louder or more aggressive. It’s about how you think, how you position yourself, and how you handle those moments at work.
And whether you call it that or not, that’s negotiation.
Not the kind that feels pushy or uncomfortable. The everyday kind you’re already in.
When you decide to speak up in a meeting
When you ask for an opportunity
When you handle workplace conflict
When you position your ideas and advocate for your value
Each week, Susie breaks down real workplace scenarios, communication strategies, and mindset shifts so you can stop second-guessing yourself and start getting what you want in your career and your life.
Episodes
189 episodes
Why Getting Things Done Isn't Getting You Noticed
Your calendar is full. You're keeping up, moving fast, and honestly proud of what you're getting done. Then you find out there's a major cross-functional initiative in the works and your name wasn't on the list.It's not a confidence prob...
The Excuses You Make That Are Costing You What You Want
You picked the day. You thought through exactly what you were going to say. And then your boss pushed the meeting and you felt, if you're honest, a little relieved. So you reset the date. And then something else came up. And then again. And bef...
The Meeting Mistake That Makes You Forgettable
Think about the last time you had something to say in a meeting and didn't say it. Maybe you were waiting for the right moment. Maybe someone else was talking and you thought you'd jump in after. And then the conversation shifted, and the momen...
Your Words Are Telling People How to See You
Every time you speak, you're shaping how people receive what you say. And most of the time, you're doing it without realizing it.It sounds like this: I'm not as technical as everyone here, but... or this may not be helpful, ...
The Habit Making You Invisible at Work
How often do you say “I’m good” and move on?It sounds harmless, but it’s one of the fastest ways to disappear in your career. I see talented leaders doing this all the time: you’re doing the work, and you’re driving results, but in the m...
What to Do When You Receive Conflicting Feedback
You can be a confident leader and still feel thrown off by feedback. Especially when it points in completely different directions. One person tells you to speak up more. Another says you’re too strong. Suddenly, you’re left wondering which vers...
What To Do When A Decision Blindsides You
You walk into a meeting prepared and you think you’ve anticipated the questions + direction of the conversation. Then suddenly the decision goes a different way, and you feel the shift immediately. Your body reacts before your brain catches up....
Elevate Your Differentiator: R.A.I.S.E. Framework Part 5
You’ve recognized the moment. You’ve aligned. You’ve inserted value. You’ve supported others. Now it’s time to elevate.In this final part of the R.A.I.S.E. framework, I’m challenging you to stop leaving your growth up to interpretation. ...
Support Multiplies Your Influence: R.A.I.S.E. Framework Part 4
Influence isn’t just built when you speak. It’s built when you choose who and what you reinforce.In this part of the RAISE framework, I’m talking about SUPPORT and why lifting someone else in the moment is one of the most strategic moves...
Insert Your Value Before They Move On Without You: R.A.I.S.E. Framework Part 3
You know that moment when you stay quiet even though you had something to add? It feels safe in the moment, but it costs you more than you think. Staying silent doesn’t just slow your momentum. It keeps the room from seeing your value.Th...
Align with What They Need Before You Speak: R.A.I.S.E. Framework Part 2
Being right doesn’t make you influential. If you've ever walked away from a conversation wondering why your idea didn’t land, or worse, why someone went silent, you’re not alone. Today we’re talking about the A in RAISE: Align. This step is all...
Recognize the Moment Before Silence Writes Your Story: R.A.I.S.E. Framework Part 1
People can't choose you if you're invisible. And when you're silent, people think you're satisfied.This is the first episode in my five-part RAISE framework series, and we’re starting with something most people completely overlook: the m...
Stop Waiting for Permission
If you’re waiting for someone to hand you the next opportunity, this one’s for you. We don’t always realize how often we hold ourselves back, telling ourselves it’s not our role, we’re not ready, or we don’t want to look pushy. The problem? Sil...
Rewriting Your Relationship with No
Most of us hear no and take it personally. We shut down. We see it as the end of the road instead of the beginning of a conversation. But what if no could actually be a place to start? In this episode, I’m sharing how to shift the way you hear ...
Are You Missing This Career Accelerator?
You are not meant to do this alone. If you’ve been trying to grow your career by working harder, waiting your turn, or following the standard process, this is the episode you didn’t know you needed.I’m sharing why the right people in you...
Confidence Isn’t the Starting Point; It’s the Outcome with Sarah Barnes-Humphrey
You don’t need to feel ready to start. You just need to start. That’s exactly what Sarah Barnes-Humphrey did when her life and career imploded overnight. In this conversation, Sarah opens up about what it took to rebuild her confidence from scr...
How to Lead When Confidence Wanes
If confidence were constant, leadership would be easy. But it’s not. One moment you feel solid, the next you’re second-guessing everything. That shift can throw off your presence, your voice, even your ability to ask for what you need.In...
Build Career Options Before You Need Them
If your role changed tomorrow, would you have options or just panic? Most people assume their company will guide their career. That someone, somewhere, is thinking about their growth. But here's the truth: no one is planning your next ...
Are You Diluting Your Power Without Realizing It?
It’s not just what you ask for. It’s how you ask for it. In this episode, I’m walking through three deceptively simple strategies that have helped countless women shift how they show up, how they’re perceived, and how confidently they navigate ...
Why Smart Women Miss Opportunities
Sometimes we know exactly what we want, but we don’t raise our hand. We hesitate. We wait. And the opportunity passes us by.In this episode, I’m talking about what holds us back from stepping up, why hesitation costs more than w...
When Your Boss Pulls Away, Is It You or Them?
One day you’re having regular one-on-ones with your boss, and the next? Silence. Fewer meetings. Less context. No feedback. It’s easy to assume it’s personal, but is it?In this episode, I’m talking about what’s really going on when a lea...
How Confidence Changes the Conversation
Ever seen someone walk into a room and instantly command it, without saying a word? That’s confidence. Not ego, not arrogance. Just belief. And belief is leverage.In this episode, I’m talking about the power of calibrated confidence—why ...
Are You Leaving or Leading?
Most people put all their focus on the new job when they leave a role. But if that’s where your attention ends, you’re missing a huge opportunity. I want to show you how to leave well, not just logistically, but strategically.In this epi...
What Happens When Certainty Disappears
You’re doing well at work, but something changes. A layoff, a canceled meeting, your boss goes quiet. And suddenly, your confidence takes a hit. That’s scarcity creeping in.In this episode, I’m unpacking what it looks like when fear take...