How to Get What You Want

The Future You Is Not Coming to Save You

Susie Tomenchok Episode 137

You’ve said yes because it’s next month. Or two weeks from now. You’ll have more space, more clarity, more capacity… right? Except when the time comes, you’re just as busy, just as stretched, and the you who made the commitment is long gone.

In this episode, I’m calling out the quiet trap we fall into when we outsource hard things—decisions, conversations, priorities—to our future selves. I’ll share why this mindset sneaks up on smart, capable people, how it erodes trust in ourselves, and what it looks like to pause, zoom out, and lead from alignment instead of avoidance. If you've ever overcommitted because the calendar made it look easy—this one's for you.

In This Episode, I’ll Cover:

  1. Why we overcommit when decisions feel distant—and how to stop.
  2. What it means to lead with intention, not avoidance.
  3. A simple mindset shift to help you make cleaner decisions in real time.

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Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.
💕Susie
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